Christianity makes guilt inevitable and shame impossible

George Kelly defined guilt as: “A perception of one’s apparent dislodgement from his core role structure.” This “core role” develops out of our relationships with significant others whom we construe ourselves in certain ways: loving, responsible, secure, etc. It seems to follow that any religious paradigm which casts human beings as essentially good makes guilt…

Depression 

Depression is a problem of courage (Adler). It is a condition in people who are afraid of life, who have given up independent development and have been totally immersed in the acts and aid of others  (Becker). They’ve lived lives of “systematic self-restraint”; a life that can be described as a series of silent retreats…

The real reason why selfies are dumb

Selfies do not capture the moments we lived, but the moments we sacrificed. They capture moments of people being profoundly non-present in whatever they were supposedly doing at the time: walking the beach, riding a bike, getting married. They catch people in the very act of disassociation – unwitting disassociation, but disassociation all the same.…