Depression is a problem of courage (Adler). It is a condition in people who are afraid of life, who have given up independent development and have been totally immersed in the acts and aid of others (Becker). They’ve lived lives of “systematic self-restraint”; a life that can be described as a series of silent retreats until one has backed himself into a corner with nowhere left to run.
This failure of courage has a remedy: “One must pay with life and consent daily to die, to give oneself up to the risks and dangers of the world, allowing oneself to be engulfed and used up” (Becker).
There is not just a fear but a sheer terror of individuation – of being alone and losing support – that often goes unnoticed. No man has enough power to rely on himself. We embed ourselves in the power of others. Just think of someone who seems to defy this rule, like a Trump or a Soros, or any number of strong men. Take away their network and supports and they become beggars.
Depression can be seen as a state encountered by one who can no longer flee and can no longer fight (Gaylin).